Birth: 28 May 1775

Place or Registered Place of Birth: Thanckes, Cornwall

Baptism: 6 July 1775

Place of Baptism: Antony, Cornwall

Death: 7 February 1830

Place or Registered Place of Death: Hanover Street, Westminster, London, Middlesex

Place of Burial: Regent Street Chapel

Father: Thomas Graves

Mother: Elizabeth Williams

Spouse(s): Mary Paget

Date of Marriage: 27 June 1803

Place or Registered Place of Marriage: Devonshire

Children:

William Thomas Graves (1804-1870)
Jane Anne Graves (1805-1881)
Louisa Elizabeth Graves (1806-1868)
Caroline North Graves (1807-1861)
Mary Elizabeth Charlotte Graves (1810-1827)
Augusta Champagne Graves (1812-1844)
Hesther Charlotte Graves (1814-1880)
George Augustus Frederick Clarence Graves (1816-)
Isabella Letitia Graves (1817-1870)
Henry Richard Graves (1818-1882)
Adolphus Edward Paget Graves (1821-1891)
Paget Trefusis Graves (1825-1826)

Notes:

Committed Suicide in 1830.

Graves 1788-92 {Davies, Foster).
Thomas North, e.s. Thomas G., admiral {see previous entry) ; b. 28 May 1775 at Thanckes, co. Cornwall; matric. at Oxford, from University College, ID Mar. 1794; admitted student of the Inner Temple 28 Nov. 1792 ; succeeded as 2nd Lord Graves [I.] Feb. 1802; M.P. for Okehampton 1812-18, for Windsor 1819-20, for Milborne Port 1820-27; comptroller of the household of the Duke of Sussex 1804-30; Commissioner of excise 1827-30; m. 27 June 1803 Mary, yst. dau. Henry (Paget),.1st Earl of Uxbridge ; d. by his own hand 7 Feb. 1830 in Hanover Street.

The European Magazine and London Review, Volume 44 - June 1803
Marriages
Lord Graves, son of the late Admiral Graves, to Lady Mary Paget, youngest daughter of the Earl of Uxbridge.

The Journal and Correspondence of William, Lord Aukland, Volume 4 - Page 181
.....The other marriages since your departure are Lord Graves to Lady Mary Paget, youngest daughter to Lord Uxbridge, a very pretty young woman. It was a very sudden love and soon settled............

Annual Register, Volume 72 - 1830
February
7 - At his lodgings in Hanover-street, aged 54, the right hon. Thomas North Graves, second lord Graves, baron of Gravesend, county Londonderry, treasurer and comptroller of the household of the duke of Sussex, and a commissioner of Excise.

His lordship was born May 28, 1775, and was the eldest son of Thomas, the first lord Graves, (who was raised to the peerage in 1794, for his share in lord Howe's victory in that year, and other eminent naval services,) by Elizabeth, daughter and coheiress of William Peere Williams, of Cadhay, in Devonshire, esq. He succeeded his father in the title Feb. 9, 1802; and married, on the 27th of June in the following year, lady Mary Paget, fifth and youngest daughter of Henry, first earl of Uxbridge, and sister to the present marquis of Anglesey, K.G. and G.C.B. His lordship was elected M.P. for Oakhampton at the general election in 1812, and appointed one of the lords of his majesty's bedchamber July 13, 1813. In that capacity he attended upon his present majesty on his visits to Ireland and Scotland.

Lord Graves was not returned to parliament in 1818, but in 1820 and 1826 was elected for Oakhampton, which seat he vacated in 1827, by accepting the appointment of a commissioner of Excise. It was at the same time that he resigned his post of a lord of the bedchamber.

Lord Graves terminated his life by suicide, under circumstances which awakened much popular attention. On the previous day he had attended his duty as commissioner of Excise, and dined out in the evening with sir George Murray: he breakfasted late on Sunday, but was cheerful; and was to have dined out again on that day with his brother-in-law, the marquis of Anglesey, when, in the short interval between three o'clock and the hour of dressing for dinner, he first despatched a letter to lady Graves, at Hampton-court, by one of the coaches, and then perpetrated the fatal act. The verdict of a coroner's inquest was, "That the deceased died by a wound inflicted by himself on his throat, in a sudden fit of delirium." The affair is enveloped in mystery, but it is surmised that his lordship fell a victim to his own nice sense of honour, which was wounded by a number of malicious reports circulated respecting his lady, which had formed the subject of caricatures.

Lady Graves had been separated from her husband for some time, and had occupied for about seven months a gratuitous residence assigned her at Hampton-court, a limited income and a large family preventing his lordship from keeping up an establishment.

The letter before-mentioned was an answer to one in which she had requested an interview on Monday, and that the family dinner at Lord Anglesey's was intended fur the arrangement of some matters which were to be a subject of discussion at that interview.

Lord Graves was in person tall and portly; in manner amiable, good-natured, and unaffected. We need not say, therefore, that be is regretted by a large circle of acquaintances, to whom his manners and companionable qualities rendered him acceptable, and that the melancholy termination of his life is deeply deplored by those friends and relations by whom his temper and disposition made him beloved.

Lady Graves was at one time considered a beauty, and is still thought to be a very fine woman, although the necessity of wearing glasses, from a slight shortness of sight, somewhat diminishes the first impressions of her otherwise very prepossessing appearance.

The remains of Lord Graves were deposited in the vault of the chapel in Regent-street, being the nearest place of interment to the house in which be died.

Children of Lord Thomas North Grave and Mary Paget

William Thomas Graves, b. 18 April 1804, m(1) Sophie Therese Berthier, 11 Aug. 1829, m(2) Louise Adele Malene, d. 20 March 1870.
Henry Richard Graves, b. 9 Oct. 1818, m. Henrietta Wellesley, 21 Oct. 1843, d. 29 April 1882.
Adolphus Edward Paget Graves, b. 26 Jan. 1821, m. Caroline Glubb Wriford, 27 April 1858, d. 1 Sept. 1891.
Jane Anne Graves, b. 4 December 1805, m. (Capt.) J. W. Cuthbert (of Dumbarton Manor, Isle of Thanet), 15 Dec. 1829, d. 14 Sept. 1881. He d. 6 June 1874.
Caroline North Graves, b. 18 April 1807, m. (Major Gen.) Hugh Percy Davison (of Swarland Park), 18 Jan. 1844, d. 27 Oct. 1861. He d. 5 July 1849.
Louisa Elizabeth Graves, b. June 1806, m. Charles Heneage, 28 Aug. 1827, d. 30 June 1868. He was a member of the Life Guards, son of Thomas Fleschi Heneage, by his wife Hon. Arabella Pelham, 4th dau. of 1st Baron Yarborough. Children.
Augusta Champagne Graves, b. May 1812, m. Rev. Hon. William Towry Law, 15 March 1831, d. 16 Oct. 1844. He was 5th son of Baron Ellenborough, and d. 31 Oct. 1886. Children.
Hesther Charlotte Graves, b. 4 January 1814, m. Edward Isaac Hobhouse (brother of 1st and last Baron Broughton), 4 Jan. 1832, d. 30 Jan. 1880. He d. 16 May 1854. Children.
Isabella Letitia Graves, b. 11 May 1817, m. Stephen Roland Woulfe, b. 11 May 1817, 9 June 1853, d. 26 Oct. 1870. He was of Tiermaclane, co. Clare, only son of Rt. Hon. Stephen Woulfe, Lord-chief-Baron of the Court of Exchequer in Ireland.
Mary Elizabeth Charlotte Graves, b. 30 November 1810, d. 25 December 1827.
Paget Trefusis Graves, b. 6 September 1825, d. 26 June 1826.
George Augustus Frederick Clarence Graves, b. 17 February 1816.

Thomas North Graves, 2nd Lord Graves